Friday, July 27, 2007
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Which end of the Bruce-Demi ~ Alec-Kim bell curve do you choose?
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(: Bruce and Demi
stand sipping drinks and chatting
on one end of the b e l l C u r v e of how to divorce
and fighting to the death on the other end are
Alec and Kim. ):
The human brain, when given a clear choice between pleasure and pain, will choose pleasure. So it's great for folks to have healthy examples of both well done and poorly done divorces in celebrities lives. Their work is fantastic, but it's their rules, values and beliefs about relationships that help everyone the most.
Here's the article reprinted from People magazine:
How Bruce Willis Conquered Jealousy of Ashton
WEDNESDAY JUNE 06, 2007 10:10 AM EDT
By Emily Fromm
Bruce Willis famously gets along with ex-wife Demi Moore's new husband, Ashton Kutcher – but, he reveals, it wasn't always so easy.
The Live Free or Die Hard star, 52, who has said he even vacations with his ex and Kutcher, tells the July issue of Playboy that it was pal Will Smith who helped him get over his jealousy when Moore and Kutcher first started dating.
"During some very dark hours he talked to me about it," Willis says. "He said, 'Dude, you've got to do whatever it takes to get the kids and all the spouses or the girlfriend together. You've got to show your kids it's okay.' It was like a light went on. Ding. So Will, thanks. And thanks for all those good movies you're making."
I was so impressed with Bruce Willis and Will Smith when I read that article. Then my daughter reminded me that Will got his healthiest family rules from his wife Jada and we'll probably never know who taught such healthy thinking to Jada, but we can all thank God for that footnote person in celebrity history. That one person has dramatically reduced suffering in a lot of parents and children going through divorces.
"A parent's hardships
are best viewed as opportunities
to teach our children by example
how best to handle hardships.
No one has to live by the rule "You've got to do whatever it takes to get the kids and all the spouses or the girlfriend together. You've got to show the kids it's okay." But lord knows we ought to for our kids sakes. If nothing else so they can learn by experience how to do it wisely and kindly, how to keep themselves on the smart and healthy end of the divorce bell curve if they ever have to get a divorce themselves someday (as most will).
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Saturday, July 7, 2007
What is this idiot doing? w/pic
What is this idiot doing? I came back from the kitchen with a fresh glass of iced red ball tea and there he was - completely immobile, seemingly frozen in space and time - just like this....
In the picture, it looks like he's singing....
Oh Sooo lo Miaaa!!!
una bella luna
una belle amour
oh solo mia
But in reality he was frozen like that. As if he thought, "OKAY, STOP RIGHT THERE. THAT'S IT, HOLD IT. HOLD IT.... DON'T MOVE... DON'T BLINK... DON'T EVEN BREATHE.... THAT'S RIGHT.... STILL, STILL, HERE SHE COMES! DON'T MOVE, SHE'S FREAKING OUT, SHE'S LOOKING ALL WORRIED, OH THERE SHE GOES! SHE'S GETTING THE CAMERA. WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T MOVE... LET'S SCARE THE CRAP OUTTA HER. SHE'S GONNA WONDER WHAT THE HELL YOU WERE DOING FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE!"
He stayed in that position and didn't move for at least a full minute after I started taking pictures of him. I wasn't sure if he was alive or not. In any case I couldn't help him, so yes, I took pictures of him not knowing whether he was dead or alive. I've never seen one in that position and especially not frozen in that position. I thought he might have been shot or perhaps landed wrong and broke his his back, uh maybe... whatever had happened I needed evidence at the very least.
But suddenly he jumped up, shook himself off and flew away.
Any ideas? What's up with my crazy (thank God, ALIVE) jay?
I'm collecting opinions. Lord knows I've got questions today. How bout you? :)
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Wednesday, June 20, 2007
*MY Version* of the Serenity Prayer w/pic
The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things
I cannot change;
(the past)
courage to change
the things I can;
(the present and future)
and wisdom
to know the difference.
(already given)
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This beautiful rose started as a beautiful rosebud with a broken stem. My friend Colleen might have decided it was going to die anyway so why not just throw it out. The past can't be changed. The stem was broken. It couldn't be repaired. But she gave it a chance. The rosebud proved that the present and the future can be changed. It didn't die and it didn't stay the same. It blossomed. Can you see how a temporarily broken relationship might look sorta like this? I can.
I never considered clarifying the Serenity Prayer until the Oklahoma Bombing. I was so mad. I went over to the small parchment plaque of the Serenity Prayer on my wall, I jerked it down and at first I scratched out the part about what we couldn't change.
My friend Deanna treated my action like an act of sacrilege. I reminded her the prayer was never a part of the bible. It still bothered her, as it may some of you.
A year or two later I took it down again and stared at it for a long time, trying to figure it out. I had prayed for the wisdom to know the difference and I wanted it almost desperately. It was like looking at one of those multidimensional pictures that I never can see the real picture in. Only with this one, finally, I got it. The only things we can't change are the things in the past. Everything else is up to us.
Everything. Our joy, our sorrow, our strength and our weakness..... everything is up to us. Since then, mostly I pray for more light and more courage. If you pray for me, please, pray the same.
The Complete Serenity Prayer! (original)
God,
Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the Courage to change the things I can
and the Wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it.
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life,
and supremely happy with Him forever in the next.
Amen.
- Reinhold Niebuhr
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Wednesday, June 13, 2007
Heart Ache Relief Songs
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[First written July 2003 - wow, that seems so long ago now]
Many of us listen to pain-inducing songs when we have a broken heart. I'm absolutely convinced "I'm So Lonesome I Could Cry" has been playing at far more suicides than anything Ozzy Osbourne has ever written. All I'm suggesting here is that instead of listening to songs that increase the intensity of your suffering, you make a conscious choice to listen to only pain-reducing songs when your heart is hurting.
I put this "Emergency Heartache Relief Song List" together several months ago. But I couldn't in good conscience share it with you till I'd tried it on myself first. Recently we were blessed with my latest broken heart. I've been self-medicating with this CD for a week and it works even better than expected. It is immediate pain relief. I play it all the time and I haven't hurt for three days. Three whole days and only a week into it! Not bad at the possible/probable end of a three year, fun, interesting, romantic relationship.
If you are suffering a broken heart as you read this, you be sure to burn this to a cd or mp3 player asap and start listening to it all the time to get immediate relief. If you're doing fine, either create the cd and save it or at least bookmark this song list cause eventually, most of us will get our hearts broken again in the future. Also, share it with any friends who are suffering.
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In case of heartache, play most of these songs.
I've linked them to their lyrics so you can pick the best selections for you. Just reading them will help a little, but nothing compared to listening to the songs daily. If you had a headache you'd take something for it right away instead of just suffering it. A heartache is a lot worse than a headache. So if you're hurting, get with it! Download your favorites and listen to them all the time, till you're better!
- You Gotta Be ~ Des'ree
- Takin' Back My Heart ~ Cher
- I'm Gonna Be Alright ~ Jennifer Lopez
- I Will Survive ~ Gloria Gaynor
- Strong Enough ~ Cher
- Can't Keep a Good Man Down ~ Alabama
- Believe ~ Cher
- Button off of My Shirt ~ Ronnie Milsap
- On My Own ~ Whitney Houston
- I'm a Survivor ~ Destiny's Child
- Coming out of the Dark ~ Gloria Estefan
- New Attitude ~ Patti LaBelle
- It's Raining Men ~ The Weather Girls
- Fighter - Christina Aguilera - added 2007
- The Voice Within ~Christina Aguilera - added 2007
- Finally Made Me Happy ~ Macy Gray - added 2007
- Irreplaceable ~ Beyonce - added 2007
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Some of my favorite heart ache quotes.....
God is closest to those with broken hearts.
~Jewish Saying
Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means
that you are strong enough to let go.
~Author Unknown
When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead
keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart
has been sent to heal.
~Author Unknown
Music is always great brain programming. Any time you're not consciously listening to it, the words are going straight to your subconscious. The more you listen to it, the less you listen to it consciously. That's why I don't listen to any music with rules, values or beliefs that weaken me. I pray you don't much either.
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